Theresa's Mixed Nuts: Accessorizing Tastefully For Middle School

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Accessorizing Tastefully For Middle School

I've noticed Allison take quite a shift in her attitude towards appearances this school year. Last year, she didn't care if she went to school with wild hair. Jeans showing a little too much ankle? Whatever! Patterns on clothing don't match? So, what!? That was definitely her 5th grade attitude. It seems since starting 6th grade, a whole new girl has emerged. Last year she wanted to sleep in until it was almost time to walk out the door. This year, she has been insisting on getting up early so she can have her hair properly fixed. She's taking careful consideration to planning out her outfits days in advance. And now she has an obsession with watching beauty tutorials on YouTube.


She'll spend obscene amounts of times trying to perfect certain hairstyles, and she's swiped all of my excess makeup to practice different looks. Of course, it's fine to wear in the house, but at almost 12, she's not allowed to leave with any of it still on her face. She seems to be in such a hurry to grow up, but I'm forcing her to stay my baby just a little longer. We've had to do a little compromising so she feels that she has a little freedom over her own look, but at the same time, it's mom approved. Here's how we compromise:

She wanted to dye her hair white like Elsa's. I told her she could learn to use the flat iron instead.
She wants to wear makeup. I allow a lightly tinted lip balm.
She wanted wedge shoes. I directed her towards slouchy boots that would look good with skinny jeans.
She wanted her ears pierced, we shopped together for cute, age appropriate earrings and other jewelry to accessorize her outfits. Since she's still learning to take care of her pieces, it's important to find stylish, inexpensive jewelry and charms. I like to shop for these products on a wholesale jewelry site, so I don't have to worry too much if she loses or gets her jewelry stolen.

Allison is at the age where there's a fine line on looking tasteful or tacky in middle school. I think we've made some good compromises so far. I've steered her towards looking like a respectable tween, and she feels she can put a creative spin on her look by dressing up her outfits with cute accessories and jewelry. #Winning!

What are some of the compromises you have made with your children lately?


30 comments:

  1. I'm glad she has a Mom like you to point her in the right direction for these things. You should get her a wig around Halloween to like like Elsa at home.

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    1. She won't wear the wigs. We've bought them for her Halloween costumes before and she says they are too itchy. Makes me wonder why she keeps begging for bright blue wig she found on eBay though. She's a loony toon!

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  2. he he my publisher told me that she lets her daughter go around the street wearing Elsa's wig :)

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    1. I bet her daughter is cute as a button walking around town in it!

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    2. she made her a birthday Frozen cake last weekened, it was so stunning I was left breathless. It had both Anna and Elsa figurines on it and was all green and blue.... and had matching cakepops too

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    3. And you didn't take a picture to show me? Darn it Dezzy :)

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    4. will send it to you at Facebook :) You will be thrilled... it was so lovely

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  3. Compromising is good indeed. I've seen a few with Elsa's hair, looks a bit umm weird.

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    1. Most of them are pretty scary. I did see a girl in Hot Topic that had the hair down perfect and she actually looked really good. Most can't pull off the look well, though.

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  4. When it comes to shoes we compromise. My son wants a new pair weekly and they are expensive.

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    1. I'm glad to hear it isn't just girls who want a new pair of shoes weekly lol ;)

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  5. I have to admit I didn't decide to wear make up till I was probably 20 and we had uniform at school so not much choice - guess I missed out on this hehe :) x

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  6. Compromise is important. I have a lazy teenager on my hands. He has decided he doesn't want to shave. I agreed to the beard as long as he keeps it trimmed. Catherine S

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  7. Compromises are important when you have kids. It helps save the power struggles.

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  8. Those are great tips. My daughter isn't really into much for accessorizing. Amber N

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  9. My Daughter is getting ready for her first year in college. She will be living in a Dorm room and we have been making compromises on what she will need in there.

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  10. My son likes to wear crazy colored basketball socks wherever he goes. It's not my style but I like to pick my battles.

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  11. Oh I remember the teenage years. That is great that you are giving her other alternatives instead of just staying no!

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  12. Comprising is a great way to deal with a lot of things within a family. I'm not sure what I've had to compromise on lately, but I think there's been a few things. - Jeanine

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  13. She's lucky to have a mom like you who guides her. It's also nice that she's willing to compromise. Other teens won't.

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  14. I have all boys, my oldest did not start caring about his appearance until late in high school. My youngest could care less. I am not sure I would have known what to do with a girl as I never went through this phase myself! Glad you were able to help your daughter make some great decisions and not let her grow up too fast.

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  15. haha you said 'winning' and I laughed. :) I remember when my daughter was trying to grow up too fast.

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    1. actually, my daughter is STILL trying to grow up too fast. ;)

      I love your re-directs too, btw!! Smart Mom. #winning

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  16. My oldest is going into middle school this year and he's ALL ABOUT the hats. He got this wicked expensive Boston Red Sox cap at a game we were at because he said all the kids at school would think he was cool in it.

    Ok....

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  17. Not really. My son's school has a fairly strict dress code with uniforms. The only place to make compromises is with shoes, but the school doesn't care what he has on. Or at least, my son never wants a shoe that violates school rules.

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  18. Compromising is si important in our life & I just love that as a mom you stand by her to guide her on this. As far as I know people who compromise don't fail, they just go on & succeed easily.

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  19. Oh my goodness I am dealing with almost the exact same thing. There is such a HUGE difference between 5th and 6th graders!

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  20. She is growing up fast... once that starts happening... LOOK OUT!!! They care about more than you want them too care about.

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  21. My son Just started High school this Year and a totally change! He told me since he had Nike shorts on he couldn't wear his Under A. Shoes. I chuckled out loud!.

    Would love a follow and some advice:
    http://www.fortheloveofmesses.blogspot.com/2015/08/newsflash-school-starts-in-2-days.html

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  22. Kids nowadays.. I notice that even my Obi, 4.5 years, already watched those kids make-up tutorial on YouTube.. Wait a lil longer, young lady ;).. Your daughters are so lucky to have you..

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