The Ugly Truth About First Date Night for Parents
For every parent in this world there will always be the first date night. After years of being parent, trying to hold our kids 24/7 every minute every second, it’s time to be brave and relaxed for awhile. And I know first date night has never come easy.
On my first date night out I couldn’t stop thinking about the kids, I was reconsidering whether we had made the right decision and then I was so worried I kept thinking the what if. I thought I should have written some will, you in case something happened with us while we were gone. And there were so many weird and mixed feelings along the way.
However thinking about it now I am glad my husband and I did that. After years of being caught up in this parenthood routine we definitely needed some fresh air and it wasn’t because we didn’t love our kids that we went out without them. Rather we did it for them. To refresh our relationship, to build better commitment and renew intimacy.
So if you are new parent who are thinking of taking a first date night there are some ugly truths you must aware of:
- Your kids would probably go crazy, beg you to allow him to join you, whining, crying and screaming but you must not look back. You may have called someone to look after them while you are gone, most definitely someone you trust, could be a family member so rest assure she/he will be taking a good care of your kids until you come back.
- Your hesitation will only grow your kids meltdown. So make the goodbye short and simple.
- Don’t cry and think about them all the night because then you will loose the point you go in the first place. Besides you will be disappointed if you keep worrying about them the whole night and come home only to find that they are laughing and playing, or even sleeping peacefully like nothing in this world bother them.
Yes the ugly truth is that no matter how hard your kids try to keep you from going they will be able to handle it. So rather than wasting your energy and chance of having a great night by thinking they will keep crying until you get home, cheer up. You’ll come home only to find they almost forget you are gone.
Just a curiosity (but I think this is a good info too) how old was your kid when you decide to go on your first date night?
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