It’s getting to be that time of year again where summer gatherings are in full swing. This is also the time of year that huge life events take place and invitations start pouring in for celebrations. I like parties, family gatherings, and almost always attend any event that I am invited to. Yet, I was thinking the other day that last summer I went to a wedding, college graduation, and a baby shower, all of which I gave very nice monetary gifts. Do you know how many "Thank You" notes I received? None! I find this very rude and offensive! I feel that if you have time to send out invitations, then you have time to send a quick thank you as well. This really irks me too on the invites that I feel I received just because I would be another gift giver. You know what I am talking about. Those people you never hear from until they have a party where gift giving is the norm. The college graduate did post an informal "Thanks to all who attended my graduation" on his Facebook wall. I don't want to be collectively grouped into a tacky Facebook shout out when I took time out of my day to attend your event and gave a nice gift. It doesn't have to be hand written either. With all the technology out there to reach people today, I think it would be ok to send a quick text, email, or even a Facebook message acknowledging the gift and saying thanks. It doesn't matter how it's delivered, just make it personal. I know there are those who say they don't gift give for a thank you. I guess I feel differently. If I give you a gift, I expect a thank you. It’s good manners. If you can't find the time to say thank you, I will not be finding the time to attend any more of your future events.
I have also had people expect me to do for them
without a polite request. I had one person say, "There is a family at my church
that is struggling. I'm going to need all the clothes your girls have out
grown." And since I am a sahm, "I need you to watch my kids on xxx day." Look, I
love helping people, but please ask, don't demand.
Also, my mom and I were discussing how we
have attended every event of a certain family member for the past few years, yet
she has not been to one of ours. Functions and communication are two way
streets. I like to feel like I am a valued part of someone’s life, so when it
starts feeling a little one sided, it’s time for me to move on. If relationships
are important to you, you need to learn to give as well as take.
If you are sending out invitations for any life events this year, do remember
that a little please or thank you will go a long way!